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The truth of my opinion on passive-aggressive behavior
 
 
Frank Cotolo
June 18, 2015
 
I have a problem with the definition of what is called passive-aggressive behavior and I wish to make my case on this article. I will be assertive, emphatic and I will use words on the brink of hostility and then leave it to you to decide.
 
They say PAB (passive-aggressive behavior - and do not accuse me of it because I don't want to spell it out every time I mention it in this article) is "an indirect expression of hostility." So, using sarcasm, stubbornness or sullenness, for instance, is PAB.
 
What a frikkin' insult to the marvelous art of sarcasm. What would take sarcasm's place if it was not used as indirect hostility? You guessed correctly if you said, "hostility". What if instead of using sarcasm, every person about to use it made a fist and hammered it into the skull of that person or persons who would have been the victims of the sarcasm?
 
Also, does sarcasm exist to satisfy PAB or is it also a form of humor? Right now I would like to slap silly anyone who would call my sarcasm a replacement for a good kick in the nuts.
 
The powers-that-be (PTB) that try to convince us about PAB often say that "failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is responsible" is another way to display displaced hostility. What the frik? How about people who cannot perform requested tasks for which one is responsible because they are inept? Is ineptitude PAB? If a person cannot perform a task and is mentally challenged (MC), are the MCs involved in PAB or are the PTB ignoring the MC people? How can the PTB have a POV about MC people and accuse them of PAB if PTB, especially in the USA, demand hostility over passive-peaceful behavior (PPB)?
 
Besides, how can one be passive and aggressive? Passivity turns the other cheek and don't religious people tell us that is a key to getting to Heaven? What the frik do the PTB want as an alternative to PAB? Only hostility can wipe out passivity. I would like to toss an electric toaster at someone who accuses me of PAB if I procrastinate or sneer or roll my eyes or display a negative attitude about anything. Would that make them happy?
 
If the only cure for PAB is hostility then what the frik are the PTB expecting from people? The PTB complain about hostile people and they complain about people with PAB. What does that make them? Schizoid? Perhaps they employ passive-schizoid behavior? The two-faced weasels; they want it both ways and they want us to express our hostility without using a pitchfork.
 
I'm a peaceful man but I won't take squat from anyone who points a finger at me and accuses me of PAB. I will, instead - and you should do this too - say, "All right, do you want the full measure of the hostility? Because I have a loaded fist right here that can express how I feel with the best punctuation of my emotions."
 
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