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Fighting anxiety victims |
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"Why don't you just pray more?" Before you give any spiritual advice to an anxious person, find out the specific details. Don't suggest they pray more unless you know to whom they should be praying. Find a patron saint of anxiety or make one up but don't insinuate that God will suddenly stop trying to stop the spread of AIDS in Africa to stop a single person from being nervous. I find that using the name Saint Albatross works. |
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"You don't look like there's anything wrong with you." Oh come on, everyone looks like there is something wrong with them. Even a person having an anxiety attack knows this while shaking and sweating and becoming entirely disoriented. Check yourself in a mirror; don't you look like some deep, depressing injustice you harbor is raring to be released and create havoc? I should say so. |
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"You're just doing this to get attention." There are no two, three or a million other ways to lose a friend than to say that to anyone suffering from anxiety. Think about it. Why would someone vomit, tremble, stumble on words and stammer on thoughts to get anyone's attention if that kind of behavior would attract negative attention? Acting like a person about to come apart at the seams would not exactly prompt applause from viewers. Did you ever see someone go batty in public? Sometimes people run away, not towards, a person acting strangely. Why look stupid when you don't have to prove to anyone you are stupid because they already know? |
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"Just get it under control." This flat out does not work. In fact, it can make an anxious person go over the top and maybe even cause heart failure. What a burden to put on someone who is out of control. How could that person get control if becoming out of control is the main ingredient for an anxiety attack? If you use this statement to try to ease someone out of his or her anxiety you may be signing your own death warrant. Research shows, by the way, that people who sign their own death warrant rarely have a chance of revoking the terms of the warrant and usually die. |
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Frank Cotolo can be found hosting the talk and interview programme Cotolo Chronicles. You can send him an e-mail at this address: frank@148.ca. |