There is an old saying, and by old I mean it goes back to the eighteen hundreds, that suggests we
should swallow bad medicine quickly as opposed to keeping it in our mouths and sustaining its
gruesome taste. That saying should also go for saying things that may cause bad reactions in people
listening to things other people have to say to them.
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Instead of explaining what you just said, why not say what you should have said instead of
explaining what you just said?
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What happens in our culture today is that people imitate what other people do or say and in this
case it is an imitation of what people say, although saying something is doing something. Some
people use this form of talking because they think it is funny and it is true that it can be funny
and not hurtful but sometimes it is hurtful and funny but people have a problem discerning which
is which.
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By "discerning" I mean understanding and by using the word "problem" I mean that I feel people who
don't know the difference between funny and hurtful are stupid. By "stupid" I mean imbecilic and
that, my friends, is hurtful (you see I just called readers my friends but you are not all truly
friends or you would have shown up for the funeral of my wife).
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All in all, people tend to talk before they think and that makes conversation unreliable and
dishonest and useless. There, I said it - useless. Why do we talk to one another at all about things
we feel? We could just lie and not qualify the lie and go on our merry way.
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By "merry way" I mean the tough, miserable and depressing lives we all secretly lead.
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Frank Cotolo can be found hosting the talk and interview programme Cotolo Chronicles. You
can send him an e-mail at this address: frank@148.ca.
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